From Job to Blob

I need to branch out. There is more to me than strictly mental sickness; however, it's tied into, well, everything about me. When I was younger and more rash, I left college behind and found a career at an engineering firm. My career in the civil department lasted exactly one day. After that I was drafted into the land surveying division, because I was a warm and able body. That actually developed into a nice career, as I strove to advance and kick some professional ass. There was only one issue with my trajectory upwards.... it wasn't sustainable and I burnt out. And that is when I decided to quit and become Mr. Mom. I truly thought that it was going to be a vacation during which I would recoup, until I was ready to take on the world again. My end goal was to find a new career. I hadn't expected that staying home would rob me of my self worth and lead me towards increased self loathing and depression.

Recovery hasn't begun, but maybe someday. I know I am back in school, but I am struggling and this is new to me. Before this, college had been considerably easier. Now my resolve is being tested, and shown to be lacking. It's somewhat annoying that I get back on the horse just to be socked in the face, and of my own volition. Give me enough time and I hope to punch back. Dear brain, dear mind, dear self-development, wake up. I've realized that there are questions I have to address about myself that I have avoided for years. A big one being: how can I expect respect from others when I don't respect myself. That is not founded in any sense that I currently don't get respect, but I expect that will catch up to me at some point in my professional future. Somehow I have to generate self-confidence. Oh boy. That's going to be a doozy. University is hard, and I do NOT want to burn out again.

The Million Dollar Inquest

A big question on my mind is whether the adderall is truly treating me or just helping me live life. By treating me, I mean directly addressing any aspect of my mental illness or treating the symptoms of it. I do feel that it helps me concentrate better, but I also feel that it increases my energy. I benefit from both, but I am concerned I may be getting addicted to it, even if very minutely. My mental condition is directly related to how much work I can get done and how well of a job I do. Obviously if I am focused and energized, then my mental condition improves. Energized may be a bit of an overstatement. It mostly prevents fatigue and exhaustion from overwork and stress. It does improve my efficiency and decreases my mental stress.

Back to the million dollar question... is that actually treating my underlying cause or simply helping me for the moment. I know my disease is a lifetime struggle. It isn't going anywhere and I cannot expect a permanent cure. However, I don't necessarily want a treatment that is a crutch, that will set me up for larger failure in the future.

The actually reason behind my inquiry at all is that I have felt less "stable" lately. I would prefer being less happy but on more of an even keel when it comes to my daily emotions. Having a wonderful day, just to wake up with strong feelings of hopelessness for no reason is not something I want to deal with. So, the question being, can adderall address an aspect of my depression while actually destabilizing the bipolar aspect? I have also been experiencing more anxiety, to the degree that I have to medicate it. Xanax and I get along, but only while I am taking it. If I ever get addicted to that again, I will be set up to go through hell. Therefore I take it sparingly and it almost gives me an anxiety attack even taking it. I will be discussing all of this with my doctor next week.

Which makes me think more about ECT. I don't think I've written in detail about my experience with the treatment, but my depression had more recently gotten down to the point at which I was considering the treatment again. It did not have drastic side effects on me, like some people have had, but they were considerably more than I would like to go through. If my current doctor cannot work me through to better stability by spring I will most likely find a doctor that is willing to prescribe me ECT.

The Sun and Its Devices

I wish I could write consistently on one aspect of mental health, instead of my experience as a whole, but I am at the whim of my chemistry. I would love to tackle a single strain to completion. There are days I feel like continuing a thought or feeling from a previous entry, just to be blindsided by the tiresome rat race that is my brain. It would seem that the main theme perhaps is the unpredictability and fragility of my circumstance. The chemical ups and downs, ins and outs, twists and turns at a moment's notice. I cannot tell you to what degree that is the bipolar aspect of my affliction, but it definitely tires me out. The sun, moon, and stars seem to have more control over the state of my mind than I do.

My last entry was quite some time ago. I struggle with longer entries, because I rarely have the desire or staying power to delve deeper into something, when I could just spurt out an entry and release quickly. About every other day I have sat down and not felt that I had the ability to write, mostly because I wouldn't know what to say. Spewing worthless bloggage to no real purpose would probably make me feel worse.

It is difficult at times to decide whether writing these entries provide a beneficial cathartic release, or if they simply cause my mind to mull and ruminate on things I feel cannot change. There are those days where writing sends me off on a detrimental mental tangent. Perhaps I should try making these entries a bit longer and working through to a resolution.

Here is the trouble with these longer entries:

1. I kind of feel like I am writing an essay for school. The fact that it feels like an obligation takes away the joy.
2. There is truly no end or resolution. My hope is to bring up a subject, tackle it, conquer it, and walk away with a smile on my face. This is fairly unrealistic, but it resides over my thoughts.
3. Even if I "conquer" a subject, I feel that there is no real correlation to my life. If, theoretically, I figured out the root of every aspect of my mental disease and talked it through to conclusion, there is a snowball's chance in hell that it equates to or affects that actual resolution.

I understand that there are several flaws in those feelings, but they are still there. My university provides therapy to a certain extent for students, and I have been seeing a wonderful therapist there for a few months now. The number of sessions per year is limiting, so we mostly focus on keeping me on the proper mental track from killing myself, but I do wish we had time for more. She recommended I find a therapist outside of school, so that I could be seen as often as needed. However, between my packed schedule and limited budget, I would rather stay with a therapist that sees eye to eye with me. Finding another therapist that I jive with is too much trouble.

The last week I have battled sickness. Nothing major, but some sort of flu that generally wiped my energy. In addition, I have felt like a ping pong ball bouncing between mental exhaustion, low grade depression, and serious anxiety. I don't really know why anxiety came back onto the scene, but it seems to be setting up shop. School is probably the largest part. School has provided significant struggles and damaged my self esteem. I am not doing as well as I expected, especially considering the effort level I am putting in. But life is all about adapting, which I am still working on.

Getting through the next three weeks is going to be key. I have some large projects, several tests, and finals looming. This all adds up to serious stress and the crappy part of it is that I really cannot predict how my mind is going to react to the stress. Even when I was not in control, there was some solace in knowing that I knew when my body would respond to a stressor and in what fashion. Even though I was not in control, I felt a level of it through foresight.

Day by day. For now, the sun rises and brings with it what it will. Until I am back in control, I have to take what is given to me.

Death From Above

Well, this is unexpected. I rarely write at home. It is quite convenient to sit in the classroom before a lecture and type out my feelings on a laptop. But the really unexpected experience right now is the cluster of anxiety I have enjoyed the past couple of days. When I was a teenager in high school I dealt with major anxiety and panic attacks for a couple of years. They grew to such a strength that my "best" method of dealing with them was self mutilation. The massive assault of physical pain helped to combat the mental anguish. There were even a couple of times that I hallucinated people who were not there, although I really do not know why. That was a horrible time, and one of the main medications that was used to combat it was Xanax. I had to use it so regularly that I became addicted to it. What a horrible, horrible experience. Weaning off that drug was like pulling my fingernails out with pliers. No thank you. So, when I talked to my doctor about getting something for breakthrough anxiety, I told him the only way I would consider Xanax again is if I did not have to take it regularly.

The past two days I have had to take the benzo in order to keep my skin from crawling and stop the pacing. As a matter of fact, I had gotten the prescription but never filled it, until I realized I really needed it and quickly. These are definitely minor "attacks", if that is even the appropriate word, but the Xanax does help. Of course using it makes me anxious as well.

Where the hell has the come from? Partially is school. It is nearing the end of the semester and there are many projects and tests looming on the horizon. The other issue is diet. I am struggling with a considerable addiction to food and binging. These are crappy, primary coping mechanisms for my stress load. I am currently working to wean myself down to a lower caloric load. Explosion. This might be more stress than the brain can handle right now. Incredibly frustrating.

DFA, death from above, is a term from a video game when I was younger, and I feel like that describes my current circumstance. Something is bearing down on me and the second I stop focusing, or distracting myself with work, everything comes flooding in. Hopefully I can figure this out before it continues to get worse. Then again, I never was that great at figuring out my shit in time to be useful. Here's to hoping.

Has the Bell Tolled

I am still far from impervious to the mood and emotional swings of the days, and yesterday was no exception. I was talking to my wife about how many things there are to do on a daily basis that we just cannot keep up on. It is difficult for me to accept that she endures stress that I am unable to listen too, because it can send me into a spiral. Just listening for a few minutes yesterday, and understanding my impotency to help made my feelings turn darker. Fortunately, as time went on, I distracted myself with schoolwork and things improved.

This, coupled with my thoughts earlier this week, concern me that the time has come for that looming darkness to dig its nails back in for a while. I'm not giving up, by any means, but I want to be prepared for the worst. Of course the last few months have been horrible, mentally, but it has to improve at some point. Right? I suppose it could get worse, but let's ignore that possibility, because it isn't a viable option. A major improvement is the lack of suicidal ideations. Let's pray those stay at bay.

I feel like I need a coping mechanism beyond schoolwork and generally keeping busy. I think that a good hobby might help. At home I have several possibilities, but when I finally get some free time (hahaha), I usually just want to lay down and watch a movie.

To Whom the Joy Shows

The other day in therapy, I voiced my reserved excitement towards my wife noticing that I was doing well and waiting for her to comment on it. I had a great week and felt that I was not just doing better, but also acting like it. Then the truth came out. My wife and I have somewhat opposite schedules. She works stretches and I am at school a great deal of the time. When we are together I am often venting about stress or show major signs of exhaustion. At first I was shocked when she voiced her concern about me not doing well, or possibly doing worse. I told her I was doing really well, but that I was simply exhausted from my schedule and days of poor sleep. 

I sat there and thought for a minute and realized she doesn't often get to see the good parts of my day. This is something that I think I actually have enough power to show her now. I am still doing well, and I want her to know that is how I feel. Life is difficult but it is not horrible. From here on out I am going to try and shower her that I am enjoying where we are and what we are doing. The stress is still there, but I don't want her to think that everything is so horrible that I wish things were different.

I feel like the last couple of weeks have been a strong transition from where I started writing. I still have dark feelings, but I am uncomfortable addressing some of them at this point. When will I be ready to address some of my underlying questions about suicide and depression? Maybe never, despite how much better I feel. There have been times I tried to understand or address them, only for the thoughts to drag me down the rabbit hole. Perhaps some things are better left undiscovered.

Tempus Fugit

Time, for me, seems to drag slowly or fly at 100 miles a second. The last week has been so busy that it has just flown by.  Sunday was the first time in almost a week, one amazing week, that I have felt the dull pang of depression knocking on my mind's door. However, contrary to the usual decline into the rabbit hole, I made it through with relatively little problem. I believe it is largely because of two things. Primarily, it is that my medications are doing a wonderful job. Thank goodness! Secondly, I derive massive amounts of self worth and joy out of being productive and good at what I am striving for. Work ethic is a large part of my self-identity. I loathe people without a strong, positive work ethic, so when I feel that is where I am at, I hate myself. This last week has been a positive self-feeding cycle of an improved state of mind leading to working longer, harder, and better.

I can't say for one second that I have not been stressed, but these things have kept me going. The preceding months have worn down my belief that things can get better and more importantly STAY better. But right now I have hope. That in and of itself is a huge change from my norm. After a long regimen of ECT from 2014-2015, I was able to get up everyday and live for living's sake. It made very little sense to me. I have often wondered why people live their lives. What makes people want to do? So many people will get up and live, even if they hate it. This makes no sense to me, but even I used to have the will to get up and live and work and find joy.

Only time will tell where this takes me, but I would enjoy getting back to the time where I could live life, without questioning whether I should.

What the Hell is Going on Here?

I cannot fully explain what has happened the past few days, but they have been good. It has become such an oddity to have a good day, and 3 is unheard of. I decided to give one of my recent meds a second go and within a day everything had opened up. Why? Who the hell knows? This may sound cheesy, but it was just short of amazing. It is difficult to believe this will last, but I am in such high spirits that I am actually optimistic about it continuing. Perhaps the best part of this is that I am able to concentrate and distract my mind from thinking and ruminating about things that do it harm.

In a couple of hours I will meet with my psychiatrist and for now I think I will ask to make no changes. I would like to give it a few weeks and see where this takes me. Prior to this, it was an unending battle to try and figure out if I was going to make it through the week or if I should plan on being hospitalized. The past few days I haven't even talked to my wife about this, for fear that saying it out loud will jinx and change it detrimentally.

This semester has been so extremely stressful, and I was worried I could not hack it. Now I feel like I can concentrate and grab ahold of where I am going. This is going to work. It has to.

Roller Coaster FTW

This last week has been a horrible ride of ups and downs. It has been exhausting (current theme of my life) and I really did not expect it to end. For the moment, it seems to have subsided. I cannot tell you if I caught up on sleep, got past some mental block, or my mental chemistry is on the upswing, but I am enjoying it.

It isn't often that I get up and feel that it is going to be a good day. I don't enjoy Tuesday and Wednesday, because the are long days on campus. Tuesday is usually about 14 hours from when I leave home and return; while Wednesday is 15.5. They are exhausting. It seems that labs always wear my brain out, but I chose for both of them to be at the end of the day when I am tired. Bummer. Lesson learned. Tomorrow is my registration day and I will be rectifying that in the next semester.

Surprisingly, I have little negativity to spew onto this entry. Perhaps that will change by this evening, but right now I am standing good.

Fail a Little, Fail a Lot

The last few days I have sat down to write, with various ideas. and have come up short. I lack the desire and impetus to write my thoughts out. I made a poor decision on Friday that really messed up my head. It is incredibly simple and stupid, but for my oddly wired brain, it was a serious infarction.

I had a paper due on Friday that I was having significant difficulties with and knew I was not going to get done on time, and there was not allowance for late work. Friday morning I made the decision to let it go and try to focus on other work. The next couple of days were ridiculous. My decision had made more of an internal impact than I had realized. I was riddled with guilt and my skin began to crawl every time I sat down to do school work. I have not felt an anxiety attack creeping on like that in years. It scares me.

For years I have made a habit to make crappy decisions and quit things, rather than try and fail. This is a horrible, perpetuating habit that I am now battling. Right now I am struggling with a battle between my goals, academic struggles, depression, anxiety, and old shitty habits.

I have not dealt with parallel depression and anxiety for decades and I can tell you right now that I hate it. At least when I want to die, I can try to find the motivation to get up and work. But the anxiety adds a whole new dimension that includes extra physical pain.

Too.... damn.... exciting.

Figure It Out

The heading for this entry is meant to reference the fact that I have figured out all of my troubles, finally... I am an idiot. Often times I think I know what is best for me. It seems to be about a 50/50 tossup as to whether I am correct. This week I was not. I have still been struggling with exhaustion and depressive thoughts, so I thought I would cold-turkey my Ability to see if it may be adding to my issues (the exhaustion part, I figured if I was still depressed that cessation couldn't hurt it). Bad idea. Abilify is an atypical antipsychotic. I decided to not take my Sunday dose, and I felt the first effects on Monday. I have not experienced many semi-serious psychotic episodes in my life, but Monday morning was amongst the worst. Part of the experience included paranoia, which I have experienced even less often than psychosis. Being behind the wall of an abnormal episode is very odd. I very much knew what I was thinking was probably wrong, but the thoughts also seemed very probably and likely.

I remember believing that I was probably the pawn of a giant game or show and that everything around me was fake. I was fully convinced that if I could grab a sledgehammer I would be able to break through the road and find that my world was floating on air, like I was on a giant inflatable balloon that supported the show set. That is insane, and I knew it, but that did not change the fact that I wanted to prove that it was correct. The fact that I have gone through the cycle of depression for so many years, flamed the belief that I am not meant to die because the show must go on, and that I am the center of a sick, sick program. As my wife pointed out, I thought I was in a combination of the Matrix and Truman Show. Very accurate.

So, that was fairly horrible, but I did not make the connection. Yesterday I woke up with a horrible, splitting headache. I hit it with various otc meds, but nothing touched it, including caffeine. Today I woke up with the same headache... and that is when the lightbulb went off. After a few minutes of research, it was obvious that abrupt cessation of Abilify could bring on major headaches, and other issues. I decided to stop being stupid this morning and take my Abilify. Four hours later, and my headache has already begun to improve.

Figure it out....idiot.

Every Day is Exactly the Lame

I can't even tell you how many times I get up, and throughout my day, think "this day is just so different, it's not my normal, and I do not know how to describe it." Ironically, I think every-day-being-different is my normal. Today I am not suffering from the severe mental erosion I was yesterday morning. I think this is mostly due to the fact that I woke up with a major headache and have had trouble staying awake. Pain and distraction can definitely serve a purpose.

Back to the distraction vein. I was writing the first paragraph about two hours ago and completely forgot. It is just very difficult to concentrate today with this headache. But, hey, I am definitely appreciative of the fact that I am not battling depression and dark thoughts today. All smiles.... and headaches.

Enjoy the Silence

I am not very good at working without background noise or sounds. Sometimes it is music or documentaries; sometimes shows I have watched a million times or new to me shows. Mostly, this provides 'white noise' that helps me focus. It is double edged because just as much as it can block out the distractions, it can distract. Over time I have come to a better understanding of what I can watch and when. The problem is that even at home, or in the library, there always seem to be distractions.

The real question that I cannot find an answer to is when exactly it became impossible for me to endure silence. Realistically it was probably when I was young. I used music to fall asleep and often used music while doing homework. It is just part of me. Except now I usually listen to shows or talking programs instead of music. Perhaps I should try going back to music and see if that is less distracting.

Is it bad that I cannot 'enjoy the silence,' as it were? At times I can do tasks in the silence, and at other times it is simply maddening. It's almost as if the quiet allows my brain too much opportunity to reflect and think about, well, anything. And as we all know, thinking is one of my top enemies. It is the thinking that permits the floodgates of depression to take hold.

Cyclic Dumbass

I feel that so many times I try the same thing, with the same result. Today has been a crappy day. I don't really feel like writing, or know what I would even convey. Some days are like this, and that's just how it is. I'm going to sign off, before something erodes my last ounce of patience and I put my fist through my laptop.

Can Suicide be the Right Option? - Part 1

Obviously this is an extremely complex question that my half-asleep brain cannot fully address, right now; however, that doesn't mean it isn't on my mind. Feelings and emotions mostly drive this question. For years I tried to control these feelings by injecting logic and reasonable thoughts into the downward spiral, with the hopes of stopping it. About 99% of the time it just makes it worse. This week was odd. The new medication I started seemed to have a rather immediate effect and I decided to stop after two days. My suicidal thoughts became incredibly strong. I have lived with them for a long time and know a lot about where they are coming from and where they might lead. The more 'typical' and less severe thoughts can be mitigated with sleep or distraction. The severe and eminent thoughts are dangerous, because distraction usually doesn't work. The more severe and dangerous the ruminations, the more unpredictable they are (both in cause, onset, and duration). There have been times where I tell Lexi that "I'm not doing well," which is often my way of stating that I am close to needing hospitalization. I hate the wiring of my brain.

Let's start this. My basic questions:

• Who does suicide affect and how?
• Does any of this actually matter and for how long?
• What can I do to stop/cure/etc this?
• How will this affect me after death?

I will have to flesh out my thoughts at a later time, but this usually forms the basis of my pondering. What have I missed?

Chase that F*cking Rabbit

Often my biggest enemy is my own mind. Once I start chasing that damn rabbit down the hole of depression and unreasonable personal analysis, the results at best are on the downside of neutral, and at worst set me up to require a heavy dose of medication or other chemical savior. I have worked with professionals on this, to talk it out and analyze it, but after years of addressing it I have no fix. The best course of action is distraction, which keeps my mind away from itself.

Last night I started ruminating on the fact that I have changed so negatively in the last decade. I used to feel alive and capable. I found things easier and was proud of the intellect that I had. I didn't necessarily feel that I had personal impetus, but I had a strong work ethic and the ability to push myself when needed. I feel as if the flesh has been melted from my bones, and all that remains is a skeleton. Now I am expected to stop being just a skeleton and grow back that flesh. As it currently stands I am unsure if this will ever be possible. There is no guarantee that I will not decide this is impossible and side with the fate of personal selfishness.

The more I work on improving and building upon myself and my life, the more I hate myself. What happens when I get to my grand end and look back upon my personal emptiness? Perhaps I torture those around me by building to that end.

God Damn Food and its Pull

I have struggled with food for years now. Growing up, I was required to eat extremely healthy because of diet related issues. When I became an adult and moved out on my own, I went the other way. Over the years, my eating habits only declined. For about 5 years I worked a job that allowed me to eat almost anything and maintain my weight, because I spent a good amount of time working my ass off outside and in the heat. When I quit my job to become Mr. Mom, I never improved on those horrible eating habits. As time went on, my eating actually got worse because of boredom, malaise, and depression. The shame of it lead me to a cycle nighttime binging.

There have been spats where I have gotten some control over my habits and lost some of the weight that I put on. Since we moved to San Antonio, I have struggled more and more with eating. This seems to be proportional to my level of stress. It really is ridiculous, because the binging and eating ends up adding to the depression. This struggle is second only to my suicidal thoughts. The depression is something that I feel I cannot control, only my reaction to it, but the eating frustrates me because I know it can be controlled.

I am striving to control this again. Gone are the days when I try to make grand gestures that explode in my face when I fail. Over the years I have found that trying to make small adjustments to my routine works the best. Right now I am just counting calories. I am not trying to make large changes in what I choose to eat, but I am working on staying under a certain calories count, which helps me keep from binging. The fun of ignoring the binging comes with anxiety, depression, and physical discomfort that leads to insomnia. I find it all extremely stupid.

If I could get back down to a healthy weight and get into hiking shape again, I think it would really improve my depression. Partially because there is almost nothing I enjoy in the world as much as hiking out in the beauty of nature.

The Sun Also.....

It is difficult to stay awake today.....

And now it is later, about 5 hours later. I met with my doctor yesterday and he understood that the Zoloft wasn't working for me. The current plan is to try me on a medication that isn't necessarily for my condition, but may be related via my ocd and difficulties concentrating. After giving that medication a couple of weeks, to see if it is helpful or to leave it behind, we will try me on Effexor. The Zoloft and Effexor, besides having antidepressant effects, is being utilized at a higher dose to combat my ocd tendencies that cause cyclical and obsessive thoughts that I struggle to cope with. Like my bipolar depression, the doctor thinks that my ocd presents in less-severe and somewhat non-typical fashion. By "less-severe" I mean in that it doesn't affect every second of my day, such as constantly having to wash my hands, but that when it does I cannot get rid of the thoughts. I agree with the bipolar depression; however, I am unsure about the ocd. I do not understand the ocd well enough to understand if I have minor ocd, or if I just have rigid habits and tendencies. I will have to read more into where the line is that divides the two. And ruminating on oppressive thoughts do not seem to be exclusive to ocd and I believe could simply be out of depression or anxiety. We may be barking up the wrong tree to try and address those thoughts this way.

I have been on Effexor in the past, but I really cannot remember when. If memory serves (and it doesn't always), I think that I was on it back in high school, along with Buspar and Xanax for anxiety. It is because of that, I do not have anything good to say about it (although I don't really have anything bad to say about it either). But that was a long time ago and the minuscule memory of that medication is tainted by my horrible experience with Xanax. When I first started having psych issues, I had horrible anxiety attacks, which I took the Xanax for. While it treated the immediate symptoms, I got addicted to it and weaning off it was a nightmare full of withdrawals and resultant anxiety meltdowns. I would take Xanax again if it was really needed, but only prn and not on a regular basis. Just not worth it.

Monday Funday

I must say that coming down from Zoloft has been enjoyable. This weekend I was far more productive than the previous couple of weekends. It is easier to get up early and stay up without extreme exhaustion.

Last night, the family and I played badminton at the park. We didn't play an official game, just had fun hitting the birdie around. In the end, the wife and boy were on the verge of asthma attacks, Melly had to lay down from being disoriented, and I had fallen over. Trina, however, was having a fantastic time and was on top of the world. I am hoping to emphasize the importance of having fun, that doubles as exercise, while Trina grows up. The older two, and myself, are very unhealthy and lack normal stamina. This morning my left knee isn't a fan of bearing weight or bending. I fell on my right knee, but only after my left knee buckled sideways, as I was moving laterally. Hope that heals up soon.

Today I go to see my new doctor for the second time. Now that the Zoloft is leaving my system, I feel fairly stable. Having started Abilify at the same time, I think it is doing it's job. I had good results with it years ago, until my body adapted to it and it ceased providing benefit. I have high hopes that someday I could decrease my lithium level. I do not appreciate how it makes my hands shake, and I am concerned about long term effects. Steady hands are a requirement for my future career.

It's Monday, but I feel that today is going to be a good one. I will be hitting it hard, because I have a big bioscience exam tomorrow. Let's do this!

Great Life, Depression Anyways

I cannot say that I do not have stressors and that my life is perfect, but one of the major issues with depression is that it doesn't always make sense. Sometimes a bout of depression sets in, because of a particular event or maybe the season of the year. Those have a direct cause. My direct cause doesn't seem to exist, and it can be maddening.

In 2014, when I was in the hospital, I conveyed my frustration to the doctor. I told him that I was absolutely tired of this unending cycle of major depression that really has no basis in reality. It does in fact biochemically, but not as far as life events. I consider myself lucky that I have a great wife and a good life. Why the hell am I depressed if I have 'it all'? Sometimes there is no answer. There is only the question, "what are you going to do now?"

University = Stress

Like a job, college is stressful. I had heard many times that community college is nothing like university, and they were right. CC was like high school in many ways, but the primary way is that it was pretty laid back and simple. I had little difficulty achieving A's. The first couple weeks at UTSA were a blur. It felt like someone threw me on a treadmill at 100 miles per hour and socked me in the face. The moderate to massive stress increase literally made me feel as if my mind was going to break, snap, or whatever adjective best describes catastrophic failure. After feeling that I was getting my ass kicked and losing, because I cannot afford a low GPA to continue to medical school (and by low I mean less than 3.5-3.7... B+ = 3.5), I worked hard to increase the time I was working on material and assignments...and then the medication change came on.

It was necessary. I knew it, because the stress was continually pushing my mind into the rabbit hole of obsessing about suicide, but I was a bit unsure. Having been on Zoloft before, I was not as afraid; especially considering that I was playing with the idea of getting ECT booster sessions (which I am definitely afraid of because of the side effects on my memory that I have previously experienced). However, I was never on this dosage. Per my last post, I am staying on it for a few more days until I see my doctor, but I am cutting my dose in half and taking it at night. Yesterday I took half a dose in the morning, which means I have been without it for 24 hours. Already I have more clarity and my headache has decreased. Antidepressants have their place, but when they make things worse, it is time to find another.

Oh, and as a side note, when I started putting more time into school my grades and stress level started improving; however, over the last 3 weeks when I have struggled from brain fog, apathy, and exhaustion, I have started sliding backwards. I am strangely excited to be free of this medication. I would consider 'cold-turkeying' it but in the past I quit Wellbutrin like that and ended up in the emergency room with the symptoms of a heart attack. While I was cleared, my psychiatrist at the time read me the riot act about stopping that medication abruptly and that a cardiac event could result from my actions.

....aaaaand that is why she is the doctor with years of experience and I am just a guy with an internet connection. Knowledge, incomplete that is, can be dangerous.

Sometimes It Isn't Worth It

Recently, I started on an old medication to see what it could do for me, after being off it for years. My starting dose is twice as big as the largest dose I was ever on, with the intention of doubling the dose again. My doctor is hoping to not just treat my depression, but obsessive tendencies as well. These obsessive tendencies can result in dark thoughts that I cannot get rid of. But this time, at least at this dosage, it will not be worth it. Particularly not when I have to function at the university. Medications can have strong initial side effects, and it can be important to stick with the regimen to see if the benefits show up, while the negatives subside. I've given this medication about one month, but I am going to talk to my doctor about removing it.

I have struggled with exhaustion, lack of attention span, decreased motivation, headaches, desire to binge eat during the day, and the almighty caffeine does not work anymore. Oh, and I won't even go into its effects on my libido. It is hard to be exhausted when I get about 25% efficacy from coffee or energy shots. There seems to be no effective way to battle the fatigue. I have a hard time not stopping my medication by myself, but I know there is a proper way to do this and I am going to work with my doctor.

Unfortunately, that means waiting.....

Disease is as Disease Does

Someone with Type I diabetes needs medication and cannot be cured of their disease. Cancer patients seek important medical treatments to hopefully rid their bodies of the disease. Both of these afflictions, among many others, can kill you. These people are not blamed for their afflictions or chastised for needing treatments, so why are those with mental diseases? I have suffered from bipolar treatment-resistant depression, with bouts of anxiety, for more than half of my life. I have been hospitalized and undergone many types of treatments. There are fantastic times of remission, but it is my 'cancer' that continues to recur.

I am continually judging myself, an action that only helps to promote the feedback loop of depression. It is difficult for me to understand that when others look at me they cannot see into my mind and feel the hole of existence that I feel. Why am I like this? Did I do something wrong? Was there a latent genetic predisposition in my ancestry? Or is it something else? Not knowing can be difficult. That others do not have the feelings I do seems foreign to me. After a year of ECT treatments, I started to not feel that dying would be the best option. I got up and had less pervasive thoughts and felt like living for living's sake. This will sound odd, but it was an incredibly bizarre and almost uncomfortable feeling. I know that survival is an important and innate feature to any species, so where did my desire flee to?

This year, particularly the last few months, has been difficult and stressful. The reserve of emotional and mental stability I felt that I had accrued has been depleted. I am working with a new doctor and therapist,  to hopefully reinforce the dam before it breaks. For the first time in nearly a year I am considering getting ECT booster treatments. I hate the side effects that I have experienced, primarily memory effects, but it may be worth it.

Hope Between Lies

There are days that are good but peppered with moments of hectic despair. The current moment may be productive but my mind loves to throw in thoughts of failure. "Just because you are doing well doesn't mean the depression will not win in the end. You need to kill yourself now, to prevent your future failure and pain." In some ways it is a habit of mind, and in many ways it is my screwed up chemistry. There was a fairly good and stable period in my life from Spring 2015 into the beginning of 2016, but the stress of moving to Texas, kids, finances, and school have seemed to dissipate my resilience. As an example, if someone told me that if I continued to work hard for 10 years, life would be wonderful and I would get a million dollars, I don't think it would change anything. I continually struggle with how I will react over time.

In many ways, I consider myself a loose cannon. Perhaps it is the bipolar side of my depression, but in the middle of a great day I can become hopeless and suicidal, and sometimes for no reason that I can determine. There are definitely times that my thoughts or ruminations drive my descent into 'the rabbit hole' or 'spiral,' as I tend to describe them.

I feel bad for my wife. After years, I still struggle to communicate fully about what I feel. She is such a hard worker, with many of her own stressors, so I hate burdening her more. Although in the end I know that not talking only makes it worse. She has for years tried to figure out how to best help me, and for a woman so effective at helping others, I know she is frustrated at the intractability of my disease. Maybe she doesn't see it, but she has helped greatly. Some stressors she brought into my life, but she has pushed me so search for a future and to continue treatment. And she has provided my greatest impetus, being around her.

Addition by Subtraction

At first blush, the title of this entry sounds ridiculous, but it doesn't have to be. The demon of depression has been hitchhiking on my back for years. My life is a spring, compressed by a rock; and if the rock was removed, perhaps all that potential power could be released. There are days and periods where I feel free of the restraints, but they are fleeting. No, I will never be completely free, but what degree of freedom is possible? How will I know when I have achieved maximum freedom? If I am able to improve to the point that I only have one major relapse a year, should I assume that is the apex of freedom and not hope for more? Too many questions. I do not want to focus on a sense of false hope. I will always want more freedom, but when I search for it and relapse earlier than expected, the relapse compounds and I fall deeper into depression and the thoughts of suicide blossom even larger. I need a balance of reasonable expectations, with a sustainable interim of actionable suicidal thoughts.

My new doctor in Texas has reintroduced two medications into my daily routine. Both of these medications worked well for me about a decade ago, but after a while they lost their efficacy and I had to move on. Hopefully after being off them for years it will bring me a new level of stability. The ECT, for all its own troubles, had a very beneficial effect on my thoughts. If I can get to the point that I only have one major relapse every 6 months, I would be happy. Then I can focus on "forcing," to some degree, for the meltdowns to happen on my schedule and not at any given moment.

Behind the Name

Unfortunately, if there were to be an overarching theme to my life, it would have to be the quest to find peace, purpose, and freedom. Recession from troubles in another theme. I suppose we all are like this to some extent. For me, I am running from the troubles of my mind and searching for a cure. There is none. There likely never will be. At this point, I have begun to accept this and hope to finally see my life as a journey with ups and downs, rather than absolutes.

Through the years I have been hospitalized, found varying degrees of help in dozens of medications, undergone ECT, and suffered with the anguish of pervasive suicidal thoughts way too often. I've talked things out, tried natural everything, prayed, and researched the cause; but in the end, there is no quantifiable answer and it can be maddening. This demon has now been on my back for over half my life and will never truly go away. Despite all of that, here I am. For this I have much thanks and hate to share with my friends, family, and wife. I don't mean to sound disingenuous. I know that suicide is a selfish action, but to that same degree I believe that keeping someone alive that doesn't want to be can be it's own torture. There is a constant equation in my head that tries to work out the balance between enjoying life and hating it. I do truly enjoy spending time with my wife and she one of the only things that anchors me to this world. Someday I will crawl down the rabbit hole of my thoughts and write more about it.

Despite the ups and downs, somehow I still move forward. Time has me by the wrist and is pulling me along like an angry child. Truth be told, in my mind's eye, time to me looks like the grim reaper, scythe in hand, heading toward an inevitable destiny. Gravity and time; you cannot stop them but you can try to figure out how to use them to your advantage. I, myself, have not achieved this yet.

The Trouble with Time

I have been listening to an excellent audio book on my commute, Designing Your Life. The Stanford professors that wrote this book, based on a course they offer, were on NPR and it sounded very interesting. Truth be told, I would love to read it, but it just isn't going to happen with my schedule. Back to the book. The concept that grabbed me was that people tend to be on an unending search for passion and purpose. To this end, people make life decisions based on desires or false beliefs that don't pan out. This resonates with me because I decided at a young age that I wanted to be an Architect, and I pursued that until my second year of college when I had the opportunity to work in an architecture firm. Dream destroyed.

Yadda, yadda, yadda, a decade and a half later, and life is very different. I am on a path that I had never seen myself going towards. I feel now that I am doing something out of choice, and less based in passion or desire without foundation. The authors make a good point about something called "gravity problems." What the hell is that? Ok, if you are fed up with gravity because it keeps you down, makes you feel heavy, and walking up a mountain is difficult; it doesn't matter. Complaining, worrying, or wasting thoughts about it do nothing. You cannot change gravity, but at times we all try to fight "it." We have plenty of "gravity" in our lives. Most of all, I think I worry about time. Do I have enough time to do something? There is too much time left until something else happens! Time, time, time! It is something that I cannot change; but I still wish I could. Change in perspective is needed to properly adjust my actions, but I haven't achieved that state of zen yet. I will choose to be happy with just pondering on this thought for a while.

The End

What am I doing on here? Nothing really. There seems to be an exaggerated level of expectation that the world is waiting with bated breath to know us and what we think. My life is interesting to me, but I would imagine most other people would find it mundane or possibly scattered. Maybe someone out there will find this and glean something useful, but beyond that, this is basically an online journal. The kind of activity that many people start a couple times throughout their life, submit a few entries to, and abandon. For now this is primarily for my own benefit.

Where do I start? I have many, sometimes too many, thoughts packed into my cranial cavity playing pinball with my focus. This will do for now. Next time? If there is another, who knows.